How Dyslexics Learn: Grasping the Nettle

Whilst we’re on the subject of dyslexia, if you’re wanting to know more about it, you might like to take a look at How Dyslexics Learn: Grasping The Nettle, co-written by my Mum.

How Dyslexics Learn - Grasping the Nettle“By dyslexics for dyslexics of all ages, this is the first book on the subject which one can honestly say is without fault. Not a word of patronage, jargon, rubbish statistics, or repetition of things everyone has heard many times before. Above all, it shows the learning process from what it truly is – fun!” Susan Parkinson, Arts Dyslexia Trust.

From The Conflict Tool Box, published by Fiona White of Mediation Matters

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How We Suppress Genius and Creativity – TED Talk by Scott Sonnon

For all the amazing people with the gift of dyslexia .  This is a very moving and inspirational speech from Scott Sonnon at TEDx, reaching out to educators, parents, and other influencers.  It also speaks to how violence interrupts or distorts learning.  Awesome talk.

From The Conflict Tool Box, published by Fiona White of Mediation Matters

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Peace Day 21 September 2012

Global Truce 2012 – Peace Day 21 September

If we all unite, together we can create the largest global reduction of violence ever recorded on one day – Peace Day 21 September 2012 – a world record.

Peace One Day is asking you to become a member of Global Truce 2012.
Join us now, make Peace Day yours and take action on the day.

Be part of the largest ever gathering of individuals in the name of peace.

If you are serious about wanting to make a positive difference in this world, click on the link below and watch the Global Truce short film, then think about what you and your business/school/community will do on 21st September 2012. Every action counts, no matter how small. Whatever you do will ripple out and create permanent change in some way. What will you do to increase the peace?

From The Conflict Tool Box, published by Fiona White of Mediation Matters

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Family arguments? – Just talk to them

“All I can say to anybody out there is if you’re having arguments with your family, talk to them, even if you don’t like it just talk to them,” said Colwyn, father of Shane Topi who drowned in the Easy Rider off the South Coast of New Zealand in March this year.

Shane Topi was not talking to his father when he left on the Easy Rider’s ill-fated voyage.  “We’re just both stubborn bastards,” said Shane’s father Colwyn. But we were both hoping that either of us would give in first but never happened.”

Words of wisdom from a grieving father.  How difficult it can be to see the humanness of those closest to us, yet we never know when that opportunity to talk things through may be taken away forever.

http://tvnz.co.nz/national-news/easy-rider-findings-little-consolation-family-4912636

From The Conflict Tool Box, published by Fiona White of Mediation Matters

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Dealing with IRD a source of conflict

I’m cross-posting this from a friend of mine Fiona Whyte, who writes a blog on Tax Debt.  She was inspired to write this from yesterday’s NZ Herald headline (hence the title) and as a result of her own dealings with the IRD.

http://taxdebtbrokers.co.nz/2012/05/06/taxman-drove-loving-dad-to-death/

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He doesn’t like me! – clues that people drop

He doesn’t like me!

How would we normally react when one of our friends or colleagues says something like this?  Disagree – “Of course he likes you“, or make a judgement call – “You’re just being oversensitive!”  We think we’re being supportive, but neither of these responses gets to the heart of what your friend or colleague is expressing.  As a result, they won’t feel heard, they may get stuck in the thought, and they may lose trust in you.  So what are they really saying?

Translation: “I don’t particularly like myself, and therefore I feel vulnerable to what other people think of me.  And because I’m vulnerable and not sure what this relationship means to the other person, I’m asking for some reassurance.”

We can tap into this vulnerability by asking, “Why do you care what he thinks?” or “What is important to you about being liked?”  The person will feel heard, will start to explore what has led them to make that statement, and to reality test it (becoming unstuck).

Inspired by an interview with Kenneth Cloke on Mediate.com.

From The Conflict Tool Box, published by Fiona White of Mediation Matters

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What does it mean to feel right? – Kathryn Schulz

“What does it mean to feel right?  It means that your beliefs perfectly reflect reality; and when you feel that way you have a problem to solve  – how are you going to explain all those people who don’t agree with you.

  • We assume they are ignorant (don’t have same info as us)
  • We assume they are idiots (unable to process that info in the same way)
  • We assume they are evil (know the truth, and are deliberately distorting it for their own malevolent purposes)

This attachment to our own rightness keeps us from preventing mistakes when we absolutely need to and causes us to treat each other terribly.  It misses the whole point of being human – the miracle of your mind isn’t that you can see the world as it is, but that you can see the world as it isn’t.”

Most of us will do anything to avoid being wrong. But what if we’re wrong about that? “Wrongologist” Kathryn Schulz makes a compelling case for not just admitting but embracing our fallibility.

From The Conflict Tool Box, published by Fiona White of Mediation Matters

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